| This explanation covers the basics that
you will need to understand how the Enneagram
works, and will be especially helpful for
beginners. As you will see, only a few simple
concepts are needed to begin your journey
of self-discovery. The Enneagram, however,
is ultimately subtle and complex, as you
will appreciate the more you use it in your
life. For more guidelines and information
visit www.EnneagramInstitute.com
Structure
The Enneagram's structure may look complicated,
although it is actually simple. It will
help you understand the Enneagram if you
sketch it yourself.
Draw a circle and mark nine equidistant
points on its circumference. Designate each
point by a number from one to nine, with
nine at the top, for symmetry and by convention.
Each point represents one of the nine basic
personality types.
The nine points on the circumference are
also connected with each other by the inner
lines of the Enneagram. Note that points
Three, Six, and Nine form an equilateral
triangle. The remaining six points are connected
in the following order: One connects with
Four, Four with Two, Two with Eight, Eight
with Five, Five with Seven, and Seven with
One. These six points form an irregular
hexagram. The meaning of these inner lines
will be discussed shortly.

The Enneagram
Your Basic Personality Type
From one point of view, the Enneagram can
be seen as a set of nine distinct personality
types, with each number on the Enneagram
denoting one type. It is common to find
a little of yourself in all nine of the
types, although one of them should stand
out as being closest to yourself. This is
your basic personality type.
Everyone emerges from childhood with one
of the nine types dominating their personality,
with inborn temperament and other pre-natal
factors being the main determinants of our
type. This is one area where most all of
the major Enneagram authors agree
we are born with a dominant type. Subsequently,
this inborn orientation largely determines
the ways in which we learn to adapt to our
early childhood environment. It also seems
to lead to certain unconscious orientations
toward our parental figures, but why this
is so, we still do not know. In any case,
by the time children are four or five years
old, their consciousness has developed sufficiently
to have a separate sense of self. Although
their identity is still very fluid, at this
age children begin to establish themselves
and find ways of fitting into the world
on their own.
Thus, the overall orientation of our personality
reflects the totality of all childhood factors
(including genetics) that influenced its
development.
Several more points can be made about the
basic type itself.
- People do not change from one basic
personality type to another.
- The descriptions of the personality
types are universal and apply equally
to males and females, since no type is
inherently masculine or feminine.
- Not everything in the description of
your basic type will apply to you all
the time because you fluctuate constantly
among the healthy, average, and unhealthy
traits that make up your personality type.
- The Enneagram uses numbers to designate
each of the types because numbers are
value neutral they imply the whole
range of attitudes and behaviors of each
type without specifying anything either
positive or negative. Unlike the labels
used in psychiatry, numbers provide an
unbiased, shorthand way of indicating
a lot about a person without being pejorative.
- The numerical ranking of the types is
not significant. A larger number is no
better than a smaller number; it is not
better to be a Nine than a Two because
nine is a bigger number.
- No type is inherently better or worse
than any other. While all the personality
types have unique assets and liabilities,
some types are often more desirable than
others in any given culture or group.
Furthermore, for one reason or another,
you may not be happy being a particular
type. You may feel that your type is "handicapped"
in some way. As you learn more about all
the types, you will see that just as each
has unique capacities, each has different
limitations. If some types are more esteemed
in Western society than others, it is
because of the qualities that society
rewards, not because of any superior value
of those types. The ideal is to become
your best self, not to imitate the assets
of another type.
Identifying Your Basic Personality Type
As you think about your personality, which
of the following nine roles fits you best
most of the time? Or, to put it differently,
if you were to describe yourself in a few
words, which of the following word clusters
would come closest?

The Enneagram with Riso-Hudson
Type Names
These one-word descriptors can be expanded
into four-word sets of traits. Keep in mind
that these are merely highlights and do
not represent the full spectrum of each
type.
Type One is principled, purposeful,
self-controlled, and perfectionistic.
Type Two is generous, demonstrative,
people-pleasing, and possessive.
Type Three is adaptable, excelling,
driven, and image-conscious.
Type Four is expressive, dramatic,
self-absorbed, and temperamental.
Type Five is perceptive, innovative,
secretive, and provocative.
Type Six is engaging, responsible,
anxious, and suspicious.
Type Seven is spontaneous, versatile,
distractible, and scattered.
Type Eight is self-confident,
decisive, willful, and confrontational.
Type Nine is receptive, reassuring,
agreeable, and complacent.
The Triads
The Enneagram is a 3 x 3 arrangement of
nine personality types in three Triads.
There are three types in the Instinctive
Triad, three in the Feeling Triad, and three
in the Thinking Triad, as shown below. Each
Triad consists of three personality types
that have in common the assets and liabilities
of that Triad. For example, personality
type Four has unique strengths and liabilities
involving its feelings, which is why it
is in the Feeling Triad. Likewise, the Eight's
assets and liabilities involve its relationship
to its instinctual drives, which is why
it is in the Instinctive Triad, and so forth
for all nine personality types.

The Triads of the Enneagram
The inclusion of each type is its Triad
is not arbitrary. Each type results from
a particular relationship with a cluster
of issues that characterize that Triad.
Most simply, these issues revolve around
a powerful, largely unconscious emotional
response to the loss of contact with the
core of the self. In the Instinctive Triad,
the emotion is Anger or Rage. In the Feeling
Triad, the emotion is Shame, and in the
Thinking Triad, it is Anxiety or Dread.
Of course, all nine types contain all three
of these emotions, but in each Triad, the
personalities of the types are particularly
affected by that Triads emotional
theme.

The Dominant Emotion
of each Triad
Thus, each type has a particular way of
coping with the dominant emotion of its
Triad. We can briefly see what this means
by examining each type, Triad by Triad.
In the Instinctive Triad, Eights act out
their anger and instinctual energies. In
other words, when Eights feel anger building
in them, they immediately respond to it
in some physical way, raising their voices,
moving more forcefully. Others can clearly
see that Eights are angry because they give
themselves permission to express their anger
physically.
Nines deny their anger and instinctual
energies as if to say, "What anger?
I am not a person who gets angry."
Nines are the type most out of touch with
their anger and instinctual energies, often
feeling threatened by them. Of course, Nines
get angry like everyone else, but try to
stay out of their darker feelings by focusing
on idealizations of their relationships
and their world.
Ones attempt to control or repress
their anger and instinctual energy. They
feel that they must stay in control of themselves,
especially of their instinctual impulses
and angry feelings at all times. They would
like to direct these energies according
to the dictates of their highly developed
inner critic (superego), the source of their
strictures on themselves and others.
In the Feeling Triad, Twos attempt
to control their shame by getting other
people to like them and to think of them
as good people. They also want to convince
themselves that they are good, loving people
by focusing on their positive feelings for
others while repressing their negative feelings
(such as anger and resentment at not being
appreciated enough). As long as Twos can
get positive emotional responses from others,
they feel wanted and are able to control
feelings of shame.
Threes try to deny their shame,
and are potentially the most out of touch
with underlying feelings of inadequacy.
Threes learn to cope with shame by trying
to become what they believe a valuable,
successful person is like. Thus, Threes
learn to perform well, to be acceptable,
even outstanding and are often driven relentlessly
in their pursuit of success as a way of
staving off feelings of shame and fears
of failure.
Fours attempt to control their shame
by focusing on how unique and special their
particular talents, feelings, and personal
characteristics are. Fours highlight their
individuality and creativity as a way of
dealing with their shameful feelings, although
Fours are the type most likely to succumb
to feelings of inadequacy. Fours also manage
their shame by cultivating a rich, romantic
fantasy life in which they do not have to
deal with whatever in their life seems drab
or uninteresting to them.
In the Thinking Triad, Fives have
anxiety about the outer world and about
their capacity to cope with it. Thus, they
cope with their fear by withdrawing from
the world. Fives become secretive, isolated
loners who use their minds to penetrate
into the nature of the world. Fives hope
that eventually, as they understand reality
on their own terms, they will be able to
rejoin the world and participate in it,
but they never feel they know enough to
participate with total confidence. Instead,
they involve themselves with increasingly
complex inner worlds.
Sixes are the most anxious type,
and the most out of touch with their own
sense of inner knowing and confidence. Unlike
Fives, Sixes have trouble trusting their
own minds, so they are constantly looking
outside themselves for something to make
them feel sure of themselves. They might
turn to philosophies, beliefs, relationships,
jobs, savings, authorities, or any combination
of the above. But no matter how many security
structures they create, Sixes still feel
doubtful and anxious. They may even begin
to doubt the very people and beliefs that
they have turned to for reassurance. Sixes
may also respond to their anxiety by impulsively
confronting it defying their fear
in the effort to be free of it.
Sevens have anxiety about their
inner world. There are feelings of pain,
loss, deprivation, and general anxiety that
Sevens would like to stay clear of as much
as possible. To cope with these feelings,
Sevens keep their minds occupied with exciting
possibilities and options as long
as they have something stimulating to anticipate,
Sevens feel that they can distract themselves
from their fears. Sevens, in most cases,
do not stop merely at thinking about these
options, however. As much as possible they
attempt to actually do as many of their
options as they can. Thus, Sevens can be
found staying on the go, pursuing one experience
after another, and keeping themselves entertained
and engaged with their many ideas and activities.
The Wing
No one is a pure personality type: everyone is a unique mixture
of his or her basic type and usually one of the two types adjacent
to it on the circumference of the Enneagram. One of the two
types adjacent to your basic type is called your wing.
Your basic type dominates your overall
personality, while the wing complements
it and adds important, sometimes contradictory,
elements to your total personality. Your
wing is the "second side" of your
personality, and it must be taken into consideration
to better understand yourself or someone
else. For example, if you are a personality
type Nine, you will have likely have either
a One-wing or an Eight-wing, and your personality
as a whole can best be understood by considering
the traits of the Nine as they uniquely
blend with the traits of either the One
or the Eight. In our teaching experience
over the years, we have also encountered
some individuals who seem to have both wings,
while others are strongly influenced by
their basic type and show little of either
wing.
There is disagreement among the various
traditions of the Enneagram about whether
individuals have one or two wings. Strictly
speaking, everyone has two wings
in the restricted sense that both of the
types adjacent to your basic type are operative
in your personality since each person possesses
the potentials of all nine types. However,
this is not what is usually meant by "having
two wings," and proponents of the so-called
two-wing theory believe that both wings
operate more or less equally in everyone's
personality. (For example, they believe
that a Nine would have roughly equal amounts
of his or her Eight and One wings.)
Observation of people leads us to conclude
that while the two-wing theory applies to
some individuals, most people have a dominant
wing. In the vast majority of people, while
the so-called second wing always remains
operative to some degree, the dominant wing
is far more important. (For example, Twos
with Three-wings are noticeably different
from Twos with One-wings, and while Twos
with Three-wings have a One-wing, it is
not nearly as important as the Three-wing.)
It is therefore clearer to refer simply
to a type's "wing" as opposed
to its "dominant wing," since
the two terms represent the same concept.
One other observation about wings is worth
mentioning. In the course of teaching the
Enneagram in workshops and Trainings, many
people in the latter half of their lives
have reported the development of their so-called
"second wing." And in individuals
who have been pursuing psychological and/or
spiritual work, we have seen evidence that
this is true. We do not know, however, whether
these students were merely seeing all of
the positive potentials of the nine types
unfolding in them as they matured
their second wing being one of the other
seven types or whether this was a
specific development of the second wing
type. We will continue to investigate this
idea in our work with our students and colleagues.
It is, of course, necessary to identify your basic type before
you can assess which wing you have. Besides indicating your
basic type, the Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator
may also indicate your wing. This can be found at www.EnneagramInstitute.com.
The Levels of Development
There is an internal structure within each
personality type. That structure is the
continuum of behaviors, attitudes, defenses,
and motivations formed by the nine Levels
of Development which makes up the personality
type itself. This discovery (and the working
out of all the traits that comprise each
type) was made by Don Riso in 1977,
and has been subsequently developed with
Russ Hudson in the last ten years.
They are the only Enneagram teachers to
include this important factor in their treatment
of the Enneagram. The Levels are an important
contribution not only to the Enneagram but
to ego psychology and the personality
types of the Enneagram cannot be adequately
explained without them. The Levels account
for differences between people of the same
type as well as how people change both for
better or worse. Thus, they can also help
therapists and counselors pinpoint what
is actually going on with clients and suggest
solutions to the problems they are having.
The Levels of Development provide a framework
for seeing how all of the different traits
that comprise each type fit into a large
whole; they are a way of conceptualizing
the underlying "skeletal" structure
of each type. Without the Levels, the types
can seem to be an arbitrary collection of
unrelated traits, with contradictory behaviors
and attitudes often part of the picture.
But by understanding the Levels for each
type, one can see how all of the traits
are interrelated and how healthy
traits can deteriorate into average traits
and possibly into unhealthy ones. As pioneering
consciousness philosopher Ken Wilber has
noted, without the Levels, the Enneagram
is reduced to a "horizontal" set
of nine discrete categories. By including
the Levels, however, a "vertical"
dimension is added that not only reflects
the complexity of human nature, but goes
far in explaining many different, important
elements within personality.
Further, with the Levels, a dynamic element
is introduced that reflects the changing
nature of the personality patterns themselves.
You have probably noticed that people change
constantly sometimes they are clearer,
more free, grounded, and emotionally available,
while at other times they are more anxious,
resistant, reactive, emotionally volatile
and less free. Understanding the Levels
makes it clear that when people change states
within their personality, they are shifting
within the spectrum of motivations, traits,
and defenses that make up their personality
type.
To understand an individual accurately,
it is necessary to perceive where the person
lies along the continuum of Levels of his
or her type at a given time. In other words,
one must assess whether a person is in their
healthy, average, or unhealthy range of
functioning. This is important because,
for example, two people of the same personality
type and wing will differ significantly
if one is healthy and the other unhealthy.
(In relationships and in the business world,
understanding this distinction is crucial.)
The continuum is comprised of nine internal
Levels of Development briefly, there
are three Levels in the healthy section,
three Levels in the average section, and
three Levels in the unhealthy section. It
may help you to think of the continuum of
Levels as a photographer's gray scale which
has gradations from pure white to pure black
with many shades of gray in between. On
the continuum, the healthiest traits appear
first, at the top, so to speak. As we move
down the continuum in a spiral pattern,
we progressively pass through each Level
of Development marking a distinct shift
in the personality's deterioration to the
pure black of psychological breakdown at
the bottom. The continuum for each of the
personality types can be seen in the following
diagram.
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Level 1 |
The Level of Liberation
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Healthy |
Level 2 |
The Level
of Psychological Capacity |
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Level 3 |
The Level
of Social Value |
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Level 4 |
The Level
of Imbalance/ Social Role |
|
Average |
Level 5 |
The Level
of Interpersonal Control |
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Level
6 |
The Level of Overcompensation |
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Level
7 |
The Level of Violation |
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Unhealthy |
Level 8 |
The Level
of Obsession and Compulsion |
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Level 9 |
The Level
of Pathological Destructiveness |
The Continuum of the
Levels of Development
At each Level, significant psychological
shifts occur as is indicated by the title
we have given to it. For example, at Level
5, the Level of Interpersonal Control, the
person is trying to manipulate himself and
others to get his or her psychological needs
met. This invariably creates interpersonal
conflicts. By this Level, the person has
also fully identified with the ego and does
not see himself as anything more than that:
the ego must therefore be increasingly defended
and inflated for the person to feel safe
and to keep their identity in tact. If this
activity does not satisfy the person, and
anxiety increases, he or she may deteriorate
to the next state, Level 6, the Level of
Overcompensation, where their behavior will
become more intrusive and aggressive as
they continue to purse their ego-agenda.
Anxiety is increasing, and the person is
increasingly disruptive, and focused on
getting his needs met, regardless of the
impact on people around them.
One of the most profound ways of understanding
the Levels is as a measure of our capacity
to be present. The more we move down the
Levels, the more identified we are with
our ego and its increasingly negative and
restrictive patterns. Our personality becomes
more defensive, reactive, and automatic
and we consequently have less and
less real freedom and less real consciousness.
As we move down the Levels, we become caught
in more compulsive, destructive actions
which are ultimately self-defeating.
By contrast, the movement toward health,
up the Levels, is simultaneous with being
more present and awake in our minds, hearts,
and bodies. As we become more present, we
become less fixated in the defensive structures
of our personality and are more attuned
and open to ourselves and our environment.
We see our personality objectively in action
rather than "falling asleep" to
our automatic personality patterns. There
is therefore the possibility of "not
doing" our personality and of gaining
some real distance the negative consequences
of getting caught in it.
As we become more present, we see our personality
traits more objectively and the Levels become
a continuous guide to self-observation,
a map that we can use to chart where we
are in our psycho-spiritual development
at any given time. As we move "up"
the Levels, we discover that we are freer
and less driven by compulsive, unconscious
drives and therefore able to act more effectively
in all areas of our lives, including in
our relationships. When we are less identified
with our personality, we find that we respond
as needed to whatever life presents, actualizing
the positive potentials in all nine types,
bringing real peace, creativity, strength,
joy, compassion, and other positive qualities
to whatever we are doing.
Directions of Integration (Security)
and Disintegration (Stress)
As we have seen with the Levels of Development,
the nine personality types of the Enneagram
are not static categories: they reflect
our change over time. Further, the sequence
of the types and the arrangement of the
inner lines of the symbol are not arbitrary.
The inner lines of the Enneagram connect
the types in a sequence that denotes what
each type will do under different conditions.
There are two lines connected to each type,
and they connect with two other types. One
line connects with a type that represents
how a person of the first type behaves when
they feel more secure and in control of
a situation. This is called the Direction
of Integration or the Security Point. The
other line goes to another type that represents
how the person is likely to act out if they
are under increased stress and pressure
when they feel they are not in control
of the situation. This second line is called
the Direction of Stress or Disintegration.
In other words, different situations will
evoke different kinds of responses from
your personality. You will respond our adapt
in different directions, as indicated by
the lines of the Enneagram from your basic
type. Again, we see the flexibility and
dynamism of the Enneagram.
The Direction of Stress or
Disintegration for each type
is indicated by the sequence of numbers
1-4-2-8-5-7-1. This means that an average
to unhealthy One under stress will eventually
behave like an average to unhealthy Four;
an average to unhealthy Four will act out
their stress like an average to unhealthy
Two; an average to unhealthy Two will act
out under stress like an Eight, an Eight
will act out under stress like a Five, a
Five will act out like a Seven, and a Seven
will act our like a One. (An easy way to
remember the sequence is to realize that
1-4 or 14 doubles to 28, and that doubles
to 57 or almost so. Thus, 1-4-2-8-5-7
and the sequence returns to 1 and
begins again.) Likewise, on the equilateral
triangle, the sequence is 9-6-3-9: a stressed
out Nine will act out like a Six, a stressed
out Six will act out like a Three, and a
stressed out Three will act out like a Nine.
(You can remember this sequence if you think
of the numerical values diminishing as the
types become more stressed and reactive.
You can see how this works by following
the direction of the arrows on the following
Enneagram.

The Direction of Disintegration
1-4-2-8-5-7-1
9-6-3-9
The Direction of Integration
or Security is indicated for
each type by the reverse of the sequences
for disintegration. Each type moves toward
integration in a direction that is the opposite
of its unhealthy direction. Thus, the sequence
for the Direction of Integration is 1-7-5-8-2-4-1:
an integrating One goes to Seven, an integrating
Seven goes to Five, an integrating Five
goes to Eight, an integrating Eight goes
to Two, an integrating Two goes to Four,
and an integrating Four goes to One. On
the equilateral triangle, the sequence is
9-3-6-9: an integrating Nine will go to
Three, an integrating Three will go to Six,
and an integrating Six will go to Nine.
You can see how this works by following
the direction of the arrows on the following
Enneagram.

The Direction of Integration
1-7-5-8-2-4-1
9-3-6-9
It is not necessary to have separate Enneagrams
for the Direction of Integration and the
Direction of Disintegration. Both directions
can be shown on one Enneagram by eliminating
the arrows and connecting the proper points
with plain lines.

| The
Direction of Integration
|
The
Direction of Stress
|
| 1-7-5-8-2-4-1
9-3-6-9 |
1-4-2-8-5-7-1
9-6-3-9 |
No matter which personality type you are,
the types in both your Direction of Integration
and your Direction of Stress or Disintegration
are important influences. To obtain a complete
picture of yourself (or of someone else),
you must take into consideration the basic
type and wing as well as the two types in
the Directions of Integration and Disintegration.
The factors represented by those four types
blend into your total personality and provide
the framework for understanding the influences
operating in you. For example, no one is
simply a personality type Two. A Two has
either a One-wing or a Three-wing, and the
Two's Direction of Disintegration (Eight)
and its Direction of Integration (Four)
also play important parts in his or her
overall personality.
Ultimately, the goal is for each of us
to "move around" the Enneagram,
integrating what each type symbolizes and
acquiring the healthy potentials of all
the types. The ideal is to become a balanced,
fully functioning person who can draw on
the power (or from the Latin, "virtue")
of each as needed. Each of the types of
the Enneagram symbolizes different important
aspects of what we need to achieve this
end. The personality type we begin life
with is therefore less important ultimately
than how well (or badly) we use our type
as the beginning point for our self-development
and self-realization.
The Three Instincts
The three Instincts (often erroneously called
"the subtypes") are a third set
of distinctions that are extremely important
for understanding personality. A major aspect
of human nature lies in our instinctual
"hard wiring" as biological beings.
We each are endowed with specific instinctual
intelligences that are necessary for our
survival as individuals and as a species.
We each have a self-preservation instinct
(for preserving the body and its life and
functioning), a sexual instinct (for extending
ourselves in the environment and through
the generations), and a social instinct
(for getting along with others and forming
secure social bonds).
These instinctual drives profoundly influence
our personalities, and at the same time,
our personalities largely determine how
each person prioritizes these instinctual
needs. Thus, while every human being has
all three of these instincts operating in
him or her, our personality causes us to
be more concerned with one of these instincts
than the other two. We call this instinct
our dominant instinct. This tends to be
our first priority the area of life
we attend to first. But when we are more
caught up in the defenses of our personality
further down the Levels of Development
our personality most interferes with
our dominant instinct.
Further, our Enneagram type flavors the
way in which we approach our dominant instinctual
need. Combining our Enneagram type with
our dominant instinct yields a much more
specific portrait of the workings of our
personality. When we apply the distinctions
of these three instincts to the nine Enneagram
types they create 27 unique combinations
of type and dominant instinct that account
for differences and variability within the
types. We call these combinations the Instinctual
Variants.
The following are brief descriptions of
the three instincts:
Self Preservation Instinct
People who have this as their dominant instinct
are preoccupied with the safety, comfort,
health, energy, and well-being of the physical
body. In a word, they are concerned with
having enough resources to meet life's demands.
Identification with the body is a fundamental
focus for all humans, and we need our body
to function well in order to be alive and
active in the world. Most people in contemporary
cultures are not faced life or death "survival"
in the strictest sense; thus, Self-Preservation
types tend to be concerned with food, money,
housing, medical matters, and physical comfort.
Moreover, those primarily focused on self-preservation,
by extension, are usually interested in
maintaining these resources for others as
well. Their focus of attention naturally
goes towards things related to these areas
such as clothes, temperature, shopping,
decorating, and the like, particularly if
they are not satisfied in these areas or
have a feeling of deficiency due to their
childhoods. Self-Pres types tend to be more
grounded, practical, serious, and introverted
than the other two instinctual types. They
might have active social lives and a satisfying
intimate relationship, but if they feel
that their self-preservation needs are not
being met, still tend not to be happy or
at ease. In their primary relationships,
these people are "nesters"
they seek domestic tranquility and security
with a stable, reliable partner.
Sexual (aka "Intimate") Instinct
Many people originally identify themselves
as this type because they have learned that
the Sexual types are interested in "one-on-one
relationships." But all three instinctual
types are interested in one-on-one relationships
for different reasons, so this does not
distinguish them. The key element in Sexual
types is an intense drive for intimacy and
a constant awareness of the "chemistry"
between themselves and others. Sexual types
are immediately aware of the attraction,
or lack thereof, between themselves and
other people. Further, while the basis of
this instinct is related to sexuality, it
is not necessarily about people engaging
in the sexual act. There are many people
that we are excited to be around for reasons
of personal chemistry that we have no intention
of "getting involved with." Nonetheless,
we might be aware that we feel stimulated
in certain people's company and less so
in others. The sexual type is constantly
moving toward that sense of intense stimulation
and intimacy in their relationships and
in their activities. They are the most "energized"
of the three instinctual types, and tend
to be more aggressive, competitive, charged,
and emotionally intense than the Self-Pres
or Social types. Sexual types need to have
deep intimacy in their primary relationships
or else they remain unsatisfied. They enjoy
being intensely involved even merged
with others, and can become disenchanted
with partners who are unable to meet their
need for intense energetic union. Losing
yourself in a "fusion" of being
is the ideal here, and Sexual types are
always looking for this state with others
and with stimulating objects in their world.
Social (aka "Adaptive") Instinct
Just as many people tend to misidentify
themselves as Sexual types because they
want one-on-one relationships, many people
fail to recognize themselves as Social types
because they get the (false) idea that this
means always being involved in groups, meetings,
and parties. If Self-Preservation types
are interested in adjusting the environment
to make themselves more secure and comfortable,
Social types adapt themselves to serve the
needs of the social situation they find
themselves in. Thus, Social types are highly
aware of other people, whether they are
in intimate situations or in groups. They
are also aware of how their actions and
attitudes are affecting those around them.
Moreover, Sexual types seek intimacy, Social
types seek personal connection: they want
to stay in long-term contact with people
and to be involved in their world. Social
types are the most concerned with doing
things that will have some impact on their
community, or even broader domains. They
tend to be warmer, more open, engaging,
and socially responsible than the other
two types. In their primary relationships,
they seek partners with whom they can share
social activities, wanting their intimates
to get involved in projects and events with
them. Paradoxically, they actually tend
to avoid long periods of exclusive intimacy
and quiet solitude, seeing both as potentially
limiting. Social types lose their sense
of identity and meaning when they are not
involved with others in activities that
transcend their individual interests.
Typing Yourself and Others
Once you have used the Riso-Hudson
Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI, Version
2.5) to discover your dominant type,
you may be curious about the personality
types of others. Since you will usually
not be able to administer the RHETI to business
associates or to strangers, you might wonder
how you can become more skilled at discovering
which type someone else is.
You may be able to figure out the types
of a few close friends rather quickly, or
you may find it difficult to categorize
people and not know where to begin. Either
state is normal. It is not always apparent
which type someone is, and it takes time
and study to sharpen your skills. Remember
that you are like a beginning medical student
who is learning to diagnose a wide variety
of conditions, some healthy and some unhealthy.
It takes practice to learn to identify the
various "symptoms" of each type
and to see larger "syndromes."
Despite the subtleties and complexities
involved, there is really no secret about
typing people. You must learn which traits
go with each type and observe how people
manifest those traits. This is a subtle
undertaking because there are many subtypes
and quirks to each personality type. Different
types can sometimes seem similar, particularly
if their motivations are not taken into
account. This is why it is not sufficient
to focus on a single trait in isolation
and make a diagnosis based on it alone.
It is necessary to see each type as a whole
its overall style, approach to life,
and especially its underlying motivations
before you can determine someone's
type reliably. Many elements must come together
before you can be sure that you have typed
someone accurately.
Moreover, when we diagnose others, we are
always on thinner ice than when we use the
Enneagram to deepen our own self-knowledge.
It is, of course, more appropriate to apply
this material to ourselves than to type
others while we avoid looking at our own
lives. Nevertheless, it is unrealistic to
think that anything as interesting (or as
insightful) as the Enneagram will not be
used for better understanding others. In
fact, we categorize people all the time.
No one approaches others without some sort
of mental categories. We automatically perceive
people either as male or female, black or
white, attractive or unattractive, good
or bad, friend or enemy, and so forth. It
is not only honest to be aware of this,
it is useful to have more accurate and appropriate
categories for everyone, including ourselves.
Although the Enneagram is probably the
most open-ended and dynamic of typologies,
this does not imply that the Enneagram can
say all there is to say about human beings.
Individuals are understandable only up to
a certain point beyond which they remain
mysterious and unpredictable. Thus, while
there can be no simple explanations for
persons, it is still possible to say something
true about them. In the last analysis, the
Enneagram helps us to do that and
only that. The Enneagram is useful because
it indicates with startling clarity certain
constellations of meaning about something
that is essentially beyond definition: the
mystery that we are.
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