| Healthy: Able to elicit strong
emotional responses from others: very appealing,
endearing, lovable, affectionate. Trust
important: bonding with others, forming
permanent relationships and alliances. /
Dedicated to individuals and movements in
which they deeply believe. Community builders:
responsible, reliable, trustworthy. Hard-working
and persevering, sacrificing for others,
they create stability and security in their
world, bringing a cooperative spirit.
At Their Best: Become self-affirming,
trusting of self and others, independent
yet symbiotically interdependent and cooperative
as an equal. Belief in self leads to true
courage, positive thinking, leadership,
and rich self-expression.
Average: Start investing their time
and energy into whatever they believe will
be safe and stable. Organizing and structuring,
they look to alliances and authorities for
security and continuity. Constantly vigilant,
anticipating problems. / To resist having
more demands made on them, they react against
others passive-aggressively. Become evasive,
indecisive, cautious, procrastinating, and
ambivalent. Are highly reactive, anxious,
and negative, giving contradictory, "mixed
signals." Internal confusion makes
them react unpredictably. / To compensate
for insecurities, they become sarcastic
and belligerent, blaming others for their
problems, taking a tough stance toward "outsiders."
Highly reactive and defensive, dividing
people into friends and enemies, while looking
for threats to their own security. Authoritarian
while fearful of authority, highly suspicious,
yet, conspiratorial, and fear-instilling
to silence their own fears.
Unhealthy: Fearing that they have
ruined their security, they become panicky,
volatile, and self-disparaging with acute
inferiority feelings. Seeing themselves
as defenseless, they seek out a stronger
authority or belief to resolve all problems.
Highly divisive, disparaging and berating
others / Feeling persecuted, that others
are "out to get them," they lash-out
and act irrationally, bringing about what
they fear. Fanaticism, violence. / Hysterical,
and seeking to escape punishment, they become
self-destructive and suicidal. Alcoholism,
drug overdoses, "skid row," self-abasing
behavior.
Key Motivations: Want to have security,
to feel supported by others, to have certitude
and reassurance, to test the attitudes of
others toward them, to fight against anxiety
and insecurity.
Examples: Robert F. Kennedy, Malcolm
X, Princess Diana, George H. W. Bush, Tom
Hanks, Bruce Springsteen, Candice Bergen,
Gilda Radner, Meg Ryan, Helen Hunt, Sigourney
Weaver, Mel Gibson, Patrick Swayze, Julia
Roberts, Phil Donahue, Jay Leno, John Goodman,
Diane Keaton, Woody Allen, David Letterman,
Andy Rooney, Jessica Lange, Tom Clancy,
J. Edgar Hoover, Richard Nixon, and "George
Costanza" (Seinfeld). |